The Date Game

Do modern-day singles need modern-day myths just to date? - Carrie

May be we do. After all we are the modern-day singles aren't we? Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty are not enough for us. We need something more concrete. Something more reliable. Something more like a dream that we can believe in and that does not shatter. Coming to dating, I haven't been out on a date since 6 months almost. I so need to. I know of friends for whom its almost been a year and I wonder how do they manage. And by dating I do not mean sleeping. They are two different things and barely fall in the same category so lets not confuse them. I get scared of dating these days and I do not know why or may be I do. It could be because of the fact that I might get rejected right away on the first date and there may not be other dates [which has happened in the past you know] or it could be that I might reject anyone [now I wonder if that has happened in the past?]

Dates - what constitute them and how do they progress is another story altogether. There are dates that last forever and you are waiting and waiting for chemistry to strike and then there are dates where within minutes you know there is chemistry and biology and everything more. There is the proverbial eye-meeting and you know. There is the chance brushing of the hand on the thigh [or is it merely a matter of chance?] and there are vibes that will enforce themselves on you, only because you asked for it. I do not even know if I am making any sense at all.

I really think I would now need to force myself to go on a date. There is so much effort in going out on a date. To decide what you will wear. What will you say. What you should leave out of the discussion. What is your best foot forward. Or will you just be yourself and offend the other person or you might just attract him..Dates and dates and more dates...sigh...So you meet a guy and the first time what hits the two of you is pure sheer undiluted silence. I mean I know how to talk and I get tongue-tied. He is not that goodlooking you know and yet...I am looking at the cars go by. I nod when he talks and keep answering in monosyllables. Its so much of an effort. God save me! Only to reailze that he will not call again or ask me out for another date...

I come home and the calendar is right there...with a red mark on a certain day...reminding me of another date :-)